Are you spending a lot of time worrying about what other people think of you? Do you find that this anxiety stops you from doing things because you’re scared of how it will look?

According to studies, these fears are misguided. We assume that other people spend far more time passing judgment on us than they actually do. And, we overestimate how negative their perceptions are when they do think of us.
This should make it much easier to stop worrying about what other people think of us. In reality, it can be a tough one to overcome. This should make it much easier to stop worrying about what other people think of us. In reality, it can be a tough one to overcome.

Why do we worry about what other people think about us?

As humans, we are social by nature and how we are seen by others is a part of how we identify. It may be natural but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy. Which could eventually lead to approval anxiety. This ultimately places your happiness and fulfillment in the hands of other people. So it’s a nightmare for those of us who struggle with anxiety.

How do we stop worrying what other people think about us?

A lot is to do with how we have been conditioned. From when we’re young, we are often expected to conform to certain norms. These include relating to being liked and accepted. We start to realise that inorder to be accepted or liked by the society we need to be ‘perfect’ . Leading to us be more stressed and pressured to be able please others and to seek unwanted external validation from everyone around us.

Know your values and morals . Know what to do to be better individual, what is important to you and the person you want to be helps you to care less about what others think.

You can’t control what other people think.

Not everyone will like you, just as you don’t like everyone you meet either.
You can’t control the way other people react to you, no matter how hard you try or how good your intentions towards them may be.

The fact that you have no control over how other people think of you gives you a lot more freedom to focus your attention elsewhere.
Worrying about how other people may react to you can hold you back and stop you making changes in your life. If you have been holding off on this for fear of what you’ll look like to other people, a new outlook can pave the way for you to start making these changes.

To fall in Love with yourself is first secret to Happiness

Robert Morley